I apologize in advance. I know this is going to be a long post. You really hit about five nerves. I'm so angry that I don't even know where to start here.
First things first. You need specific gene testing. You need to know what she has, not just what she doesn't have.
You only have to do it once, forever. My husband has DQ2 and I have DQ8 and our daughter has neither of these, but a double dose of DQ7 and a negative biopsy. My daughter has the worst symptoms of all of us, including neurological. The gastro that did her biopsy sent her home, "nothing wrong with you". According to Dr. Fine this genotype is associated with very high anti-gliadin antibodies, neurological problems, but may never have eroded villi. In other words, she could suffer for years while the doctor’s fight it out whether she should be gluten-free or not. I don't think you get points in heaven for dying with your villi intact. But I have found several recent journal articles which suggest that DQ7 may be under-investigated, and may be a third celiac gene.
“Our data do not support an earlier finding that HLA-DQ7 is a non-susceptible molecule.”
http://www.clinchem.org/cgi/content/full/44/8/1755The point is that all of us are dealing with a wide continuum of disease syndromes, symptomatic and asymptomatic, that the researchers are still arguing about and probably will be for decades. The clinicians range from completely clueless and thinking they will never see a case of this in their career, to arrogant enough to think that anything they read ten years ago, or last year or even as recently as last month was the final word on the subject. Only a few enlightened ones understand the lifetime nature of this, that the information is changing rapidly, much less that it’s contributing at some level to the health problems of greater than 50% of the population.
Which leads me to the real anger: I do medical autopsies for a living. 95% of what we see on the morgue table is some form of suicide by fork. Some were deliberately ignoring their doctor’s advice. Many more were following it faithfully. Most doctors have got a lot of nerve even suggesting that they’d know a healthy diet if they fell on it. The doctor's have been criminally ignorant and their track record in the whole area of nutrition is abyssmal. I was a preemie who struggled to ‘thrive’ for at least the first five years, in and out of the hospital. By then, I had developed into a ‘picky eater’. This drove the four adults that I lived with crazy, in large part because they were pressured by the doctors to ‘feed me better’. I developed a strong will. Get this: for three years, starting around age three, I would only eat corned beef hash. Apparently, I was willing to starve or eat corned beef hash, period, and kept it up against four adults for three years. This has been a funny family story for my whole life. It’s no longer funny to me. Is it possible that I found a gluten-free meat-and-potatoes diet to control my own symptoms?
All of this information is expensive, confusing and some of it has a short shelf-life and will be updated many times in you child’s lifetime. Count your blessings. You will have more information and more tools to decide what to do about it than anyone on earth has ever had before. Don’t waste that power trying to get a perfect answer from any doctor, period. They are advisors at best, and you and your child have to live with any answer you commit yourself to.
Make use of all that power at your fingertips to help you, like these support groups. And other tools. I have a lot of damage to undo. Like my bones falling apart. So maintaining a reasonable weight is just the beginning. I need and your child needs excellent nutrition. I found a fabulous tool for evaluating the diet you are actually eating. It’s a free website: www.nutritiondata.com. Start with the “ND Quick Start” in the upper left hand corner, and go from there. It is hands down the most powerful tool for creating a balanced, healthy diet around any restriction that I’ve ever seen, and I’ve evaluated lots of them. The nurse’s I’ve shown it to all agree with me and are starting to drag their nurse friend’s down to get me to demonstrate it, because they all what to improve their nutrition. Denial about our own poor diets is rampant among health professionals, especially doctors.
Diet is very much an issue of culture. We were taught to eat grains, and don’t know what a healthy diet looks like without grains. The doctor’s don’t either. So many won't even suggest gluten free because they can't stick to a healthy diet themselves. The single most important thing to remember is that grains are not necessary to a healthy diet. Simply substituting one grain for another, gluten-free or not, is not making a healthy diet. Focusing on one nutrient, like protein that is already consumed to such excess in America that our kidney’s are dying faster than we are, isn’t making a healthy diet either. Addressing ALL of the health promoting nutrients that are needed is the only way to make a healthy diet. We need help doing that, especially if the culturally approved choices happen to be problematic for us, like gluten and casein. But www.nutritiondata.com is not biased, it just crunches the numbers for you with one click. If there are weaknesses you’ll see them. Another click will bring you pages of specific choices that will fill the gaps. If one day is a little weak in one area, emphasize it the next day or two.
It also helps to have the advice of a dietician that really “gets” gluten-free. Live one’s are rare, but fortunately some great ones have written good books that help: “Going Against the Grain”, “Wheat Free, Worry Free”, etc.
My parents, both medical professionals, did one thing very, very right, even before this kind of information was available. On a very basic level, often in spite of themselves, they taught me to trust myself, eat when I was hungry, sleep when I was tired, listen to my body. Genetics do not change. Symptomatic or not, active or not, it will never be a GOOD IDEA for anyone in my family to eat gluten in any amount, period. But here’s the good news. If I learn, and it will be a long curve, to re-create my eating habits for good nutrition, I won’t just avoid celiac and it’s complications, I will also beat 90% of everything is killing the whole country. Eating fruits and vegetables, not grains or meat/beans are consistently associated with protection from disease from ALL causes.
My family tended to live to a ripe old age when they lived in isolation, ate the corn and beans and meat they raised themselves. The trouble started when they came out of isolation and starting buying their food in grocery stores. If I learn to choose wisely, I can turn time back to my grandmother’s generation and make mine a ripe, healthy old age. And if I teach my children and grand-children we'll outlive even the oldest of the old-timers.
Last but not least, there’s Bernie Siegel. Cancer surgeon that noticed that some of his patient’s survived while most didn’t. Same cancer, same surgery, similar treatments. He started to ask the survivors what they were doing. Eventually wrote “Love, Medicine, and Miracles” and others. One of my personal heroes. This has always struck me hard, from the first time I read it and every time I have to face a medical challenge: He noticed that for the survivors, the doctor-patient relationship was usually judged as poor by the doctor-in other words the patient’s questioned their doctor’s advice constantly, often choice diets, supplements, exercise regimen’s, etc. that their doctor’s didn’t approve of. Sometimes they refused treatments or disregarded diagnosis. Their general attitude was “this feels right to me”. So they questioned a lot and then committed themselves to courses of action on their own recommendation, sometimes in disagreement with their doctors. But, even more striking, they were willing to re-examine everything again, over and over, when new information was available and change direction and their commitments accordingly. This is good advice for coping with any medical condition, commit yourself when you need to, but change direction when you need to.