I'm writing to myself on this topic, but I wanted to be fair about it incase in the future someone needs this info.
Yesterday Holland America called us, they are the parent company for our Windstar Cruise. We have 2 issues, my gluten problem and my daughter has a life threatening peanut and tree nut allergy.
They were very nice on the phone and I felt like they really wanted to help. She did say that they won't carry any gluten free breads for me, or pastas, I'm going a really small ship and they just "can't do that. I might bring a loaf of my own bread for breakfast toast! She said they hate to promise everything will be perfect because there is only one kitchen on board and there is a small issue of cross contamination (and I guess there is everywhere we go) but she has notified the boat, the ships doctor (for my daughter) and the chef. She said when we arrive on the boat to go and talk with the dining room manager and the chef, they know we are coming and that they will do everything they can to accomodate us. She said the staff does deal with food allergies all the time and are very aware of the issues of seperate utensils and cross contamination.
So after talking with them I felt much better. I did however buy a supplemental medical insurance policy that includes airlifting my daughter off the boat if we need too. I did this on our first cruise too so its a peace of mind thing.
Thanks hope this helps someone.
Susan