Lee, thanks for your response!
Your mom's method sounds just like my mom's method, and that's what I'm going for! I think mushy stuffing is gross, but there are a few family members that like it. So I asked my mother-in-law to bring a dish of Stovetop stuffing, and I'll handle the gluten-free stuffing.
I'm not going to put stuffing in the turkey at all, which I know is going to shock and scandalize both my mom and my MIL. I think I'm going to put some kind of citrus in the cavity instead. I've done apples inside whole chickens before, and it came out great. I think citrus would be good in a turkey.
My grandma used to make the driest stuffing on the planet, and it was sooo good with turkey gravy on it.
Oh God.
Turkey gravy.
I always used jarred, gluteny gravy.
How the heck do you make turkey gravy?! I am so bad at making gravy, it's not even funny. That may be a task to delegate to my mom.